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[Mary]

Woman sits on boyfriend's toilet for 2 years :eek:
Girlfriend was physically stuck to the seat — her skin had grown around it

Associated Press
updated 2:05 p.m. CT, Wed., March. 12, 2008

NESS CITY, Kan. - Deputies said a woman in western Kansas sat on her boyfriend's toilet for two years, and they're investigating whether she was mistreated.

Ness County Sheriff Bryan Whipple said a man called his office last month to report that something was wrong with his girlfriend.

Whipple said it appeared the 35-year-old Ness City woman’s skin had grown around the seat. She initially refused emergency medical services but was finally convinced by responders and her boyfriend that she needed to be checked out at a hospital.

“We pried the toilet seat off with a pry bar and the seat went with her to the hospital,” Whipple said. “The hospital removed it.”

Whipple said investigators planned to present their report Wednesday to the county attorney, who will determine whether any charges should be filed against the woman's 36-year-old boyfriend.

“She was not glued. She was not tied. She was just physically stuck by her body,” Whipple said. “It is hard to imagine. ... I still have a hard time imagining it myself.”

He told investigators he brought his girlfriend food and water, and asked her every day to come out of the bathroom.

“And her reply would be, ‘Maybe tomorrow,”’ Whipple said. “According to him, she did not want to leave the bathroom.”

The boyfriend called police on Feb. 27 to report that “there was something wrong with his girlfriend,” Whipple said, adding that he never explained why it took him two years to call.

Police found the clothed woman sitting on the toilet, her sweat pants down to her mid-thigh. She was “somewhat disoriented,” and her legs looked like they had atrophied, Whipple said.

“She said that she didn’t need any help, that she was OK and did not want to leave,” he said.

She was taken to a hospital in Wichita, about 150 miles southeast of Ness City. Whipple said she has refused to cooperate with medical providers or law enforcement investigators.

Authorities said they did not know if she was mentally or physically disabled.

Police have declined to release the couple’s names, but the house where authorities say the incident happened is listed in public records as the residence of Kory McFarren. No one answered his home phone number.

The case has been the buzz in Ness City, said James Ellis, a neighbor.

“I don’t think anybody can make any sense out of it,” he said.

Ellis said he had known the woman since she was a child but that he had not seen her for at least six years.

He said she had a tough childhood after her mother died at a young age and apparently was usually kept inside the house as she grew up. At one time the woman worked for a long-term care facility, he said, but he did not know what kind of work she did there.

“It really doesn’t surprise me,” Ellis said of the bathroom incident. “What surprises me is somebody wasn’t called in a bit earlier.”

[Red Frog]

Mary said:

Authorities said they did not know if she was mentally or physically disabled.

If they can't make that judgment call, it's time to get some new authorities.

[Leilani]

This reminds me of the episode of Nip/Tuck where the fat guy became attached to his couch!

Weird!

[isilida 32]

that i can see, but a toilet seat. that's got to hurt.

[kohoutekdriver8]

Leilani said:

This reminds me of the episode of Nip/Tuck where the fat guy became attached to his couch!

Weird!

I heard about a very large woman to whom this happened.

:eek:

[OneArpeggioPete]

well, we've all got lost in a book sitting on the bog at times, but for two years? she must have had one mighty big library in there...

seriously, that's plain scary. whichever help she needs, i hope she'll get it.

:-)

oneArpeggiopete:cool:

[isilida 32]

she probably had the world's larget turd coming out.

[Mary]

Boyfriend of woman stuck to toilet charged
Man held responsible for girlfriend staying in bathroom for 2 years

Associated Press
updated 9:12 a.m. CT, Thurs., March. 20, 2008

NESS CITY, Kan. - A man whose girlfriend authorities say spent nearly two years in a bathroom in their house, sitting on the toilet so long that the seat adhered to her body, has been charged with mistreatment of a dependent adult.

Kory McFarren, 37, was charged Monday in Ness County District Court.

McFarren called the Ness County Sheriff’s Office in late February to say something was wrong with his girlfriend. When authorities arrived at the home, they found Pam Babcock, 35, stuck to the toilet, which they think she had sat on for about a month.

McFarren told authorities that Babcock feared leaving the bathroom and may not have left it in two years, although said he was unsure how long she was in there. He said that he took her food and water daily, and that he repeatedly asked her to come out but that she usually replied “maybe tomorrow.”

“The only thing I am guilty of is I didn’t get her help sooner,” McFarren told The Associated Press nearly a week ago.

Ness County Attorney Craig Crosswhite said the mistreatment charge most closely fit the situation.

“I looked at the statutes and spoke to the attorney general’s office,” he said. “This was a very unusual set of circumstances, and this is the law that most closely applied to the situation.”

Authorities said Babcock sat on the toilet so long that open sores developed and caused her to become attached to the seat. Sheriff Bryan Whipple has said that he used a pry bar to remove the seat from the toilet, and that the woman was taken to the hospital with the seat still attached.

“She would have to be sleeping on the toilet,” Whipple said.

Doctors at a Wichita hospital where Babcock was taken told McFarren that an infection in her legs had damaged her nerves and could leave her in a wheelchair. She was still at the hospital Wednesday night.

McFarren’s first court appearance will be in April, Crosswhite said.

[bizaleth]

Mary said:

Ness County Sheriff Bryan Whipple

As in Mr. Whipple and "Don't squeeze the Charmin"?

[NearWildHeather]

On the main forum page, this thread title only shows:

'Woman sits on boyfriend's...'

Now I'm not sure what, if anything, I was expecting to come after. But I'm pretty sure it wasn't 'toilet for 2 years'! Holy fuck!

:eek:

[eva83]

Frequency said:

The world is full of weird people and incidents...hell...you can only read this with a mixture between fascination and horror...if I was a writer, I'd make some kinda book out of this...or at least a short story.

Come on, we already know you are a writer...:cool:

and this is horrible story, I can only hope that she wasn't fully aware of what was happening to her

[Blue]

I feel for the boyfriend.. I hope he had an additional toilet..

[kohoutekdriver8]

I just saw a story in my local paper that he's being charged with mistreatment of a dependent adult.  Where authorities are coming from is that he didn't seek outside help for her sooner.

[Leilani]

Frequency said:

The world is full of weird people and incidents...hell...you can only read this with a mixture between fascination and horror...if I was a writer, I'd make some kinda book out of this...or at least a short story.

Have you had an patients stuck to unusual things yet?  Is there a procedure for informing the authorities in such cases???

[OneArpeggioPete]

Frequency said:

Well, I haven't had any patients stuck on unusual things as of yet, rather the other way round, unusual things stuck in patients!
And I am not talking about the usual "I was just dressing up and then I slipped and fell on my wife's vibrator and now it is stuck in my ass" stuff. You see quite a lot of those guys, when you're on call. They just seem to be bored.
No, I am talking about much weirder things that people put in....places...ever thought about  ways of using a flowerpot?

Informing the authorities is a pretty difficult task at some times...especially, when it's about physical abuse. We are only allowed to tell, when the patient allows us (or when there is a "higher good" to be protected, like the life of the patient). But you know all those (usually young) women that slip in bathrooms, run against doors or fall down the stairs...as long as we don't have any proof and as long they don't allow us to break our secrecy, there is nothing you can do. It's always "in dubio pro reo". Only a few weeks ago, I had to send a girl home, younger than I am, 21 or 22 years old...she had bruises all over her body and in her face and I bet that son of a bitch has beaten her up. So you go in there and say "Hey, we're the good guys, we're here to help you, if there is anything you want to tell us, no word you say will ever leave this room without your permission. We could get you outta there, if you let us". But all you usually get is stares and silence, not even denial, cos most of them have stopped denying a long, long time ago, just silence and stares. And before they take off again with their "good and caring guy", you hand them out your card, you tell them again that they can call you anytime, but as you watch them moving out of the door, you can see her drop that card into the next trash-can. And all you can think is "Hey, we help and don't help at the same time. We fixed her outside bruises, but we left her bleeding on the inside."
But that's life, you gotta move on, the night is long and the next patient is already waiting.

Well, sorry for the rant...now I am not sure how things are with the toilet seat, it's nothing you can conceal in any way. So authorities might see themselves that something might be wrong.

Sebastian

she would still be able not to press charges, wouldn't she?

i can see how it must be very very frustrating to work in a&e at times...

as for the flower pots, many moons ago, when you were still quite little, the spiegel ran an article on those things. it was hilarious, try to find it in their online archive some time! ;)

:-)

oneArpeggiopete:cool:

[OneArpeggioPete]

graham chapman mentioned an incident in his autobiography  where the patient was found to have a live hand grenade up there. i thought that one was rather unusual... ;)

:-)

oneArpeggiopete:cool:

[Driver Eight]

NearWildHeather said:

On the main forum page, this thread title only shows:

'Woman sits on boyfriend's...'

Now I'm not sure what, if anything, I was expecting to come after. But I'm pretty sure it wasn't 'toilet for 2 years'! Holy fuck!

:eek:

I had the exact same question in my mind. What did she sit on, and what did it do to her?!?