One question Froggy - were you friends with her BEFORE you dated? If so, that would make it more difficult for her to cut all ties. And conducting a romance at a distance of 1500 miles is pretty hard-going anyway.
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Red Frogitis, or: How To Shake a Lady
Started by Red Frog, Jan 21 2008 07:56 AM
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Posted 26 January 2008 - 11:06 PM
Be direct. Leave no room for alternate interpretations of what you say.
Something like, "Look, I know you want to be friends, but I don't find that possible. This relationship is over, so I need to be completely away from you, and I don't want to talk on the phone or keep in contact by email." It's really, really tempting to use phrases like "for now" or "until later", but don't. She's obsessing over you, and you're not doing her any favors by letting her drag it out.
It's one of those "cruel to be kind" sort of situations. If you're honest with her and you don't do anything that could be construed as stringing her along, you're not being an asshole; you're simply ending a relationship. Cold turkey is the fastest way to get over any addiction, right?
Something like, "Look, I know you want to be friends, but I don't find that possible. This relationship is over, so I need to be completely away from you, and I don't want to talk on the phone or keep in contact by email." It's really, really tempting to use phrases like "for now" or "until later", but don't. She's obsessing over you, and you're not doing her any favors by letting her drag it out.
It's one of those "cruel to be kind" sort of situations. If you're honest with her and you don't do anything that could be construed as stringing her along, you're not being an asshole; you're simply ending a relationship. Cold turkey is the fastest way to get over any addiction, right?
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A gentle rain falls on me,
And all life folds back into the sea.
We contemplate eternity
Beneath the vast indifference of heaven.
- Warren Zevon
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 07:15 AM
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Cold turkey is the fastest way to get over any addiction, right?
For years now, I've been addicted to cold turkey. Every time I try to tell my friends that I'm quitting cold turkey, they ask me what I'm quitting and I say fucking cold turkey.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 09:04 AM
Red Frog said:
Issy, I know how badly you want to see Corpy and I make sweet man love, but it's probably not going to happen. I'm sorry.
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 10:46 AM
Rella said:
that's a hint, probably
Everybody has their price and, even though he always complains about being poor, Issy also manages to by 18 Zunes and everything Edie Brickell has ever released, so he's got to have some sort of income.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 12:59 PM
some being the key word here. i have an income, but i don't have any real money to speak of. my music addiction keeps me broke most of the time. that and bills seems to put a damper on my wallet. sadly, stupidity is free and i have more of it than i need.
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 01:07 PM
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Be direct. Leave no room for alternate interpretations of what you say.
Something like, "Look, I know you want to be friends, but I don't find that possible. This relationship is over, so I need to be completely away from you, and I don't want to talk on the phone or keep in contact by email." It's really, really tempting to use phrases like "for now" or "until later", but don't. She's obsessing over you, and you're not doing her any favors by letting her drag it out.
It's one of those "cruel to be kind" sort of situations. If you're honest with her and you don't do anything that could be construed as stringing her along, you're not being an asshole; you're simply ending a relationship. Cold turkey is the fastest way to get over any addiction, right?
Something like, "Look, I know you want to be friends, but I don't find that possible. This relationship is over, so I need to be completely away from you, and I don't want to talk on the phone or keep in contact by email." It's really, really tempting to use phrases like "for now" or "until later", but don't. She's obsessing over you, and you're not doing her any favors by letting her drag it out.
It's one of those "cruel to be kind" sort of situations. If you're honest with her and you don't do anything that could be construed as stringing her along, you're not being an asshole; you're simply ending a relationship. Cold turkey is the fastest way to get over any addiction, right?
Donna's right.
Donna's always right.
All hail Donna.
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Posted 28 January 2008 - 07:51 PM
bizaleth said:
Donna's right.
Donna's always right.
All hail Donna.
Donna's always right.
All hail Donna.
Exactly, and she manages to do it without the brutality of my comments - had I actually dared to post them.
*goes away to continue quietly worshipping Donna*
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 01:20 AM
Red Frog said:
Everybody has their price and, even though he always complains about being poor, Issy also manages to by 18 Zunes and everything Edie Brickell has ever released, so he's got to have some sort of income.
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 04:01 AM
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All hail Donna.
Define 'hail' for me please. 'Cause I swear to fucking god, if this involves writing utensils and/or my ass, I am outta here. Donna or no.
You should never shake a lady, Froggy. Only babies.
Seriously, though, I have been in your shoes, only not with people I actually had relationships with, and it sucks. You don't want to be a jerk, but the dodging gets tiring. Which leaves making shit up...given the distance between you, this should be easy as long as you talk to your brother's wife and coordinate stories. Tell her you've found someone else, for fuck's sake.
If she wants proof, I'm sure we can Photoshop something up...perhaps insert you into that shot of Corpie in the tub from '06? :D
Everyone thinks Issy's a chick at first, Rella; don't feel bad. If he doesn't like it, he should lay off the pink taffeta.
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 05:30 AM
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Seriously, though, I have been in your shoes, only not with people I actually had relationships with, and it sucks. You don't want to be a jerk, but the dodging gets tiring. Which leaves making shit up...given the distance between you, this should be easy as long as you talk to your brother's wife and coordinate stories. Tell her you've found someone else, for fuck's sake.
...and the moral of the story is also not to do naughty stuff with the bridesmaid ever again.
ps. I guess is the -ida in the isilida what makes people think issy is not a dude. It makes sense to me at least. that and the whole Edie Brickell thing.
Andrea--
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Ah; the Andrea blockage. Sorry to hear that the creative juices have ceased to flow and a danged beaver has dammed the rushing waters of positive thought.Twistedkitemike
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Ah; the Andrea blockage. Sorry to hear that the creative juices have ceased to flow and a danged beaver has dammed the rushing waters of positive thought.Twistedkitemike
Bless you, my child, for though you have sinned against the Dutchman, you have lightened my spirit and enabled me to leave the path of terror for the verdant fields of vengeance, though with no blood on my hands. For once. In The Corner
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 05:56 AM
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...and the moral of the story is also not to do naughty stuff with the bridesmaid ever again.
But damn it, it was awesome.
I think she's taken the hint. After Saturday, when she sent me a bunch of pictures of herself (wtf?) I haven;t heard from her. From now on, I will stick to harassing the fine ladies (not you, Issy) of Murmurs, for they are made of sterner stuff.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 06:51 AM
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But damn it, it was awesome.
I think she's taken the hint. After Saturday, when she sent me a bunch of pictures of herself (wtf?) I haven;t heard from her. From now on, I will stick to harassing the fine ladies (not you, Issy) of Murmurs, for they are made of sterner stuff.
I think she's taken the hint. After Saturday, when she sent me a bunch of pictures of herself (wtf?) I haven;t heard from her. From now on, I will stick to harassing the fine ladies (not you, Issy) of Murmurs, for they are made of sterner stuff.
heam, who are the fine ladies of murmurs???!?!?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 06:53 AM
Rella said:
YEAH, rock on!
heam, who are the fine ladies of murmurs???!?!?
heam, who are the fine ladies of murmurs???!?!?
All of them.
Except I do need to whittle it down to 12 for the calendar.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:13 AM
Rella said:
:rolleyes:
You've got intriguing taste in calendars.
Maybe I'll do one of those Word a Day ones, but not words.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:37 AM
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You've got intriguing taste in calendars.
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:41 AM
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that's a calendar I did with my girlfriends a couple of years ago, just for fun, for our male-friends
This is turning into a Saved By The Bell episode.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:43 AM
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This is turning into a Saved By The Bell episode.
i'm some 5 years older than you... :)
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 07:58 AM
Rella said:
90210.....
i'm some 5 years older than you... :)
i'm some 5 years older than you... :)
Leave it to Beaver.
Some kind of singing. They sound like all kinds of people, right? And then it says another child is born in India every time you call this number, right? Does that make any sense to you?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
And the guy that spoke--I don't know who he is. But that--it doesn't sound like no answering machine, right?
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 08:04 AM
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Donna's right.
Donna's always right.
All hail Donna.
Donna's always right.
All hail Donna.
I've been saying this for years.
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The voices in my head told me to come back
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